Advice to a friend.. advice to self?
A dear friend of mine is having a rough time right now. A very creative and talented recording artist, but currently weighed down by the onerous combination of the demands of artistic development and the realities of taking care of one’s self at the same time. In replying to a call for help and advice, one particular paragraph I wrote stands out in my mind as something I need to remember for myself:
Sometimes, those of us with great creative desires feel the urge and need to plough forward with our creations at any cost… to bring our desires and dreams to fruition as quickly as possible. We set (typically artificial) deadlines for ourselves to try to keep on track and give ourselves something concrete to aim for. But the world and process of the creative arts is anything but concrete, and it requires the absolute best of care and nurturing of the creator in order to achieve the absolute best of results. In most cases, even with outside support, this care still needs to come from within. There is only so much time, energy, and money available to us at any given moment, so it is important to pace ourselves and balance our focus to ensure only the best for our art and ourselves.
Sometimes I find myself disappointed with the timeframe within which I can tackle a new idea or task, expecting myself to have complete success and perfection on the first attempt. I will forego things important to sustaining myself in exchange for extra time or energy to put towards a given project. But in reality, I need to be equally careful not to fall into this trap. There is plenty of time to create and develop, and no one is putting extreme time pressures and expectations on me – at least no one but myself.
This isn’t to say that anyone should strive for anything less but the best, but to ensure that every plan is laid out in context, keeping everything else surrounding the plan in mind. I will forever have high expectations for myself, but perhaps I need to temper those expectations somewhat in order to keep them in line with the realities surrounding a given intent or project.

















